Now that you’ve heard from guys in Veritas on the topic of modesty, what does Scripture have to say about it? It’s important that we look at the Bible for some practical wisdom in this area.
1. Scripture warns us against a preoccupation with personal appearance.
1 Peter 3:3-4: Do not let your adorning be external – the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear – but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
1 Timothy 2:9-10: Women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness – with good works.
Putting this second verse in context, Paul is writing to the ladies of the Roman court. He warns them not to be a distraction during the church service. And in 1 Peter, Peter is not literally prohibiting these specific things, but warning against an idolatry of personal appearance. We are created in God’s image, so we have a propensity to make things beautiful, but it is easy for us to put beautiful, material things – clothes, makeup, jewelry, etc. – above godliness. More on this aspect in the next post of this series.
2. Scripture warns us not to “awaken” love until marriage.
Song of Solomon 2:7: I adjure you…that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.
God’s good design for sex is within marriage. As girls, we should be aware of our clothes and our bodies and help a guy guard his mind from sexual thoughts – as we’ve already heard from the guys, this is a struggle for them! Let us not intentionally make it harder for them by stirring up love or sexual thoughts before marriage.
3. Scripture teaches us how to best love our brothers in Christ.
Romans 14:13-19: Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. I know that I am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean. For if your brother is grieved by what you eat [or wear], you are no longer walking in love. By what you eat, do not destroy the one for whom Christ died. So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil. For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding. [emphasis mine]
Over and over, guys are telling us that they need our help. They need us to be aware of sins they struggle with, and be the body of Christ to them. This passage is calling us to refrain from doing something, or wearing something, that could essentially be used to destroy the faith of a brother or sister. We must act in love, because if we fail to love them, we are contradicting Christ’s love.